How to: Instructions

Family law matters are by their very nature invasive. You will be asked to lay bare many aspects of your life - initially to your solicitor, but then to the solicitor representing your ex and ultimately maybe even in an open Court room before a Judge.

Taking instructions about the history of the matter and writing Court Affidavits are things I do on a near daily basis but I appreciate that they are not things my client's are used to doing so I thought I would prepare this little guide to keep in mind:

1: Keep calm

When we meet to get your instructions I am not there to grill you. It is not a memory test - you won't be punished if you can't remember the exact day you purchased your first house together or the name of your child's Year 2 teacher.

We will work together to try and get as many of your memories out as we can and we will then go from there.

2. Speak up

Sometimes clients think the answer is too complicated or doesn't "fit" in with their case. But it is far more important that you speak up and provide an answer.

Also, if the question your solicitor asks is confusing and you are not sure what information they are after - ask for them to ask it again or explain the question.

3. Tell the truth

The truth isn't always pretty but nonetheless it is vital that you tell us the truth.

If there is something you need to tell me but you are worried about how it will effect your case - tell me. It is my job to provide you with advice as to the use that will be made of that information and the best way to present that information and any explanations about it.